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Empower Your Life

Who do I want to be today?

Most of us are not even aware we have a choice in this matter; we see life as something that happens to us rather than as a result of us.

Everyone is of course entitled to their own view of how this happens, but isn't it so much more empowering to know that you have control over who you want to be, how you want to feel, and what kind of person you are?

I'm not gonna lie, it's also a bit terrifying!

To know that you are responsible for the emotions you have, and the way that you react to situations around you, puts all of the responsibility on you. You can no longer be a passenger in life. You understand that you are the ultimate driver and things go a certain way because you asked them to, or allowed them to.

Maybe you have heard of this sort of thing and maybe you haven't. For those who haven't- I have been there completely and still find myself occasionally slipping back into a more victim state mentality-

that state of mind where we say "can you believe that just happened to me?!" We become angry and reflexive. We blame the world and forget to look at what happened before that occurrence and ask ourselves why a situation arose. Or maybe how we brought that situation to us. Or maybe it's a total random occurrence, but we still get to choose how we react, and this reaction can change the way our future goes.


This is where animals come in. The mirrors of our souls. They will honestly and without judgement tell you who you are being at any given moment. Are you being reactionary or pro-active? Are you being compassionate with yourself for making a mistake? Or are you sabotaging, judging, or beating yourself up about it?


We are often our own worst critics!


But how do we get out of this cycle of victim-hood and take our power back? Take control and responsibility for our life- that is so very personal, close and known to us.




For me ( maybe not surprisingly) my dog was the best way to gain

insight into this very question.


How did I react to him when he barked uncontrollably over what appeared to be nothing? What did I do before that situation that encouraged him to behave this way? Why was he barking over nothing?


As I started taking responsibility for his behavior I realized my behavior and part in all of it. Mainly that I was not taking a part-

I just went through life and never paid my thoughts, or emotions any mind (pun intended!)- they just happened as they happened. I never realized I could change these patterns of thinking and therefore the way I felt. I didn't even know how I felt! I was so disconnected that I had no base level of normalcy. My internal barometer for balance and imbalance was buried so far below, that my state of imbalance became normal for me. Which brought more imbalance. Which was reflected in my pup's behavior who was acting out in response to my anxiety.

I didn't know I had anxiety, I just was as I was, excitable. I didn't know my dog had anxiety I just thought he was high energy and excitable to!


I can't say it felt all that great to feel responsible for everything.


Yet, it it did make me feel like I could do something about it!


This gave me power over something I thought I couldn't control, and it helped me see to the root of his behavior. The root of my behavior.


He gave me the ultimate prize- inner peace.